Long distance, depressed girlfriend, university, feeling trapped, spending too much time and sacrificing too many things for the happiness of the other person in the relationship. Look Ive been dealing with depression for years as well and yes at times i feel a bit hopeful and at other times i just want to die. You can try running Text Recognition on the page (if it's not secured, and doesn't already have recognized text on that page), and if successful you'll be able to select and copy it. She will have better and badder days and she will be back to old pattern. She wont go to counselling nor will she take medication, she hurts herself knowing that it hurts me because it means iv failed once again to make her happy. I envy all your girlfriends, because you acknoleged their pain.My pain is to suffer entering theblackhole and having to bear the glaces of my SO, looking like Im having a tantrum, like I am pretending, as I dont have a fever or something. I missed her, but she pushed me away and i got fed up from this. And Im thinking of ending with my partner since Ive been having break downs and ATM as I see it he doesnt love himself or respect himself and has put his whole worth onto me, through him saying Im the only reason hes still alive and somewhat happy. If things aren't going well, if there's a lack trust, or if you don't feel secure, then it makes sense that anxiety might become an issue. You took a leap when you wrote in with your question. By commenting you acknowledge acceptance of GoodTherapy.org'sTerms and Conditions of Use. She doesnt like it when I do my own thing or want to go out or have something in my life other than her. As time went on our texts started to get more and more one sided as i would ask about her day and i would help her with any problems she had, but she would always start complaining about her problems and never actually talking about mine. To see a list of mental health professionals practicing in your area, simply enter your ZIP code here: Medically reviewed by Jennifer Litner, PhD, LMFT, CST By Ash Fisher on June 10, 2021. This makes any conversion on other topics nearly impossible or difficult until her anxieties about her health are addressed. I feel like she is using me even though I take care of her. I really don't know the best way if breaking it to her and I don't wanna do anything that I'll regret 3 28 28 comments Add a Comment AutoModerator 8 mo. But I feel so guilty and ashamed and like a failure for wanting this and I dont know what to do. When we first met she experienced severe triggers and dissociative states, which led to her being unable to finish her degree, something she carries a great deal of shame from. Because of my own childhood, and my moms depression as a kid, I reflexively push her away when she gets very depressed, and have trouble acknowledging what shes going through. I once found out my girlfriend was talking to some other guy. 3. "When youre stressed, your heart starts pumping blood faster through your veins to give you energy to deal with that perceived threat," said Marcelina Hardy on BettyConfidential.com. She looks for a bit of comfort, wants some tea/cuddles and sex. The problem is somewhere else and only specialist can find it. Move on with your life. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago through a very lovely and romantic way, and since that day we are together. Buy she apparently can go on a day out with her ex to hang out behind her parents back.s he cant even do that for me?? Im sorry for all of us that love was not enough. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. Gently but strongly. She posts lots of hurtful things on her networks, she gets only and doesnt talk to me, shes alway leaving to something, she doesnt seem to care about things Ive got to say, shes no longer responsive or interested and shes been pretending fun, she doesnt seem to care at all anymore, and when I openly say how this has been hurting me and how things changed drastically, she always blames her condition, that she is really depressed and in mood swings, but she no longer let me be closer, she no longer wants to talk. There is more to life than this, trust me. it takes a lot of courag and resolve to stick around and be supportive to your partner and youve done that.kudos to that.please see that you have been strong and supportive for so long so you cannot think you will break.be confident and seek better outlets.therapy can help in a major way as I have seen.all the best. Talk, really talk openly without any criticism. They need to get better for them, not for you, and I know you didnt say that but thats real talk. Having your sh$t together isnt exactly essential for survival anymore. Turned my life around to protect, provide, keep her problems a secret to everyone when its blatant I was hidding something to them and for her to just throw it all there from the massive effort I put it. im so torn and she suggested friends with benefits because we still show each other we care and shit by being friends at school and stuff, then casual hook ups and hanging out, basically dating. Every time we go out she freaks out. It is your life too. "Healthy, happy relationships are where both partners meet each others' physical and emotional needs," says relationship etiquette expert Mara Opperman, in an interview with Bustle. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. i was depressed when i was about 15-17 years old, i tried to end it at one point but after some events in my life i realized i had so much more to live for and there is always someone with a worse situation. Nothing you can do to help. I only have time to look at primary materials and not much more, and sometimes I wait until she has gone to sleep so I can read in peace. Smoking and drinking! Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. There is this main problem with communication between boys and girls we think a little bit differently and act too. She talks like Im the only good thing in her life and I believe she truly feels that way. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. I dont know what to do, I want to go out and do stuff, cant be potato couch forever. Shes 30, Im 26, she never had a boyfriend, nor had sex or drugs nor anything. This is verbatim my situation. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Mountain Time, and our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext 3. She keeps saying this like Im not a good person & I dont think Ill ever stop feeling this way I have given her reassurance, saying Im here for it through the good and bad, but fuck it seems like Im talking to a brick wall sometimes. Please keep in mind that GoodTherapy.org is an exclusive directory. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. Sorry if I sound morbid but its devastating. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? She used to threaten me and say i am depressed & mad. I Feel Helpless! From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. It would be way worse, and if you leave, then the relationship wouldnt be as big of a crutch and she and you can move on and grow. Dear M, If you would like to find a mental health professional for your girlfriend, you can start finding therapists in your area by entering your city or ZIP code into the search field on this page: https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. I am really surprised to see that there is so many cases of difficult relationships, and also that persons who write here are mostly guys dealing with broken girlfriends. Its your natural born right to be happy! I still love him so much, but I think its the best choice for both of us. And it started to bring me down even more. She might even need help to physically move some of the bigger items out (like a couch). It hurt me deeply and I dont know what to do. I love her a lot, I just miss her old caring cuddly self! It works for me (I dont really have a hobby Im just at school all the time). i feel it but i but i just cant deal with being her friend in school and more outside, i cant do it in school. https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. Copyright 2007 - 2023 GoodTherapy, LLC. Sometimes through the foggy clouds of depression its hard to see if a person really likes you, but dont worry too much. "Trust is lost and conflict often results in anger and finger pointing." But youre so young and its not very obvious but so many people go through this at some point in their lives because life truly is pretty messed up. But how is it possible? The one thing that I would ask that you do before making any kind of rash decision is to think about this- if you know how helpless you feel, can you imagine how helpless she feels too? This really got to me, he is my first love! Karen S., a business executive in her late 20s, had been with her boyfriend eight months when she fell into a funk. Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. Not cool. (Not married) He started changing we had an argument one time and he cut all way from his wrist to his elbow, I couldnt leave him I had to ditch my mam to see if he was okay before he went to work. I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. I am not sure if Im still with her for love, for the codependency that has definitely developed or simply because I have been doing this so long I dont know any different, I have almost the exact same problem. WE ARE ALL A PRODUCT OF OUR ENVIRONMENTS. Good luck and remember the love bit. This often happens when too much stress causes hyperarousal, which can upset the balance between sleep and wakefulness, according to the National Sleep Foundation. She cannot afford therapy. Its created a weird dynamic in our relationship which has all but ruined our sex life. I really wish GoodTherapy.org would have some people, professionals or people who had past experiences in line with all the above comments and have them offer some advice and hope for everyone here. Warm regards, Shes my best friend, but I worry that shes not able to plan a life with me or be an equal partner in the relationship. Depression is a serious issue that is very difficult to understand. We list further resources on this page:https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html, If you would like to get in touch with a therapist, you can search our directory for mental health professionals in your area: goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. Before the depression she was great, and we saw each other very often. Thank you for reaching out. Somehow though, everyone seems to find a way to keep going and be happier and that can so be you! Breaking up is my last option but a considerable option because the fact that she is just not paying attention to me, everything is about her and her thoughts only. Do something romantic. My girlfriend has been depressed for a number of years, unable to shake feelings of sadness and hopelessness that carry. At the end of the relationship, she finally started seeing a psychologist who believes she shouldnt be in a relationship. The burden on caretakers is significant, and there is great therapeutic value in realizing you are not alone. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. I let things change for the negative and even though my instinct knew something was wrong I stuck with it because I am loyal and felt love on a certain level that I thought was worth considering. Are they really trying to help themselves? I dunno maybe thats just me. You're so shallow. I could stay in bed 2 days in a row. This is the person who wants what you have - your charm, your wit, your success, your intelligence, your job, your partner, whatever - and because they don't think they . Well, Ive dating this girl for the last half-year, after two years of deep depression, isolation, drugs & alcohol abuse and poverty. No one feels superior or inferior to the other." If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. Now I am devastated, saddened and hurt by the fact my beautiful girlfriend (now ex) is so unwell and theres nothing that I can really do, except offer my support and love. Read on for some of those ways. This could mean adding individual and/or group therapy to her treatment regimen, trying a new therapeutic approach, or making a change to her medication. my health is declining. First, if you are ever in crisis or are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else, it is very important you seek help immediately. I would answer, I just want to feel free and safe. We kept going on, and little by little she started becoming more and more away from me. She was not like this when we first met. "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. She still will randomly text me I love you! The odd time but the girl I felt secure with seems to have left her conscience. Dry spells happen a lot. She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. Girls love that kind of crap and its not gay or anything if you do something where you express your feelings. Shell probably choose you at first but then once she goes back to try and be friends with the ex, end that shit. And also you have to be a little tough, let her know that you understand and love (you can tell her that simply in words, she might not notice that your actions are supposed to tell it, it is also difference between sexes) her but dont be the hero here. Ive tried to think of ways to break it off that wont make her hate herself, like saying Im gay or having friends pose as drug dealers and freak her out by having them threaten me when shes around. I have high blood pressure because of her. Im fed up though. I'm just not the same. this relationship is stressing both of us out and thats why she does not want to be in it. To lower the quality, character, or value of something or someone: His disruptions are dragging down the performance of the other students. Remember the love bit. Its a selfish decision either way. It sounds like you have been a tremendous source of love, strength, and support for your girlfriend in her battle with depression. First two years went well. Wow.. so many people with so many similar issues and I thought I was the only one! We dont really have many, if any, moments of romance anymore. The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we encourage you to reach out. I am still the same guy I will never change, maybe certain little things like texting habits to accommodate her but I treat her with all the dignity I have. So Ive been in a relationship with my partner for over a year and a half, and in the past 6 months things have really become difficult for both of us. I found myself in a very similar situation. Im so tired now and giving her space and to myself too while figuring what I should do, to stay or leave? Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. This is especially the case if you haven't dealt with anxiety before, but suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly. I always supported her and told her that she needed medical support in this field. Start praying to God, together with your girlfriend. But every day she is more and more far away from me. Good Luck Everyone. Your love will develop as you both learn (with help) how to manage your feelings and youll both be closer having supported one another through this difficult process. she knows im here for her. It is very sad when a very good man like me just happens to have very bad luck with women when i really shouldnt at all. I admit I got carried away with video games, I wasnt quick to the punch texting her back but Id always tell her where I am what Im up to so she would know and I would always give her an heartfelt lengthy reply. When I asked her if she wanted to go get some food, ice cream the mall,she said no for so many reasons. She is a no bullshit chick that has always been completely honest with me about everything and this is no exception. She experienced child sexual trauma and suffers from depression and ptsd. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. You're so tired. So its what you make of it. I myself am in a LDR with my girlfriend. Send a package with love letters or get some flowers delivered to her house. You are an enabler when you take on others problems to the point where they become your own. Medication and therapy dont really work. She will need manpower to make the move happen. Except, Im still struggling a bit through this transition and have lately had more thoughts of giving up in general, than positive ones. When that happens, it may be time for some serious reflection. Dear Armand, There was a point in my life when it was obvious I needed to address my depression which exposed itself as anger and Ive been waiting 5 years for her to have the same epiphany. We all have to remain positive people. His moods got worse, we have to do whatever he wants to do, I am too scared to loose him but Ive already lost myself, I dont recognise myself anymore I was once this girl who didnt need anyone, kept everything to herself, let medication deal with my emotions now I sit and cry myself to sleep and feel so hopeless. I looked it up. Therapy and meds nothing will work. Here are 10 who are holding you down. I wanted to cope with it on my own, I thought that I would be finally feeling proud of myself if I could fix myself. Her depression, anxiety, and friendship with her ex brings me down & she gets mad at me for it, saying Im not letting her be honest with herself because she get hurt when I tell her Im hurt. I told her that i love her and i would never leave her, i forgave her cuz she lied to me, i told her that if i was with right now i would give her a hug and a kiss. As men we dont have an option. I ask if theres someone else, she says no. It pisses me off. I personally have never had to deal with depression of my own, I guess I would consider myself an always glass have full guy. And thats happiness isnt even happiness half the time, its just a less bad mood. Practice Management Software for Therapists, Rules and Ethics of Online Therapy for Therapists, How to Send Appointment Reminders that Work, https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html, https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html. Even though we are long distance, I am finding it impossible to go on, and as I am at university, if I keep this up my grades are going to slip. Also, it is very important that a psychiatrist, and not a general practitioner, be managing her medication. She hates it when I get an attitude then why does she make me get into this attitude? I am a twenty year old student. I am very patient and always will be because in my mind we love each other and relationship may not be perfect sometimes but thats okay in my eyes. Do a "deep search" instead. However when i asked her how shed feel if i was to hang out with other girls she said that i wasnt allowed to and that all i would do is want to have sex with them or at least have those intentions. If I go out without my phone I will find I have around 20-30 messages when I get back all telling me how selfish I am for ignoring her. Most of you experienced it yourselves unless you are blessed with incredible good looks or a family wealth. Try thinking back to those in hard times (or look at the older texts again like you do, I do that too haha). Like: if he was carrying better for me I would not feel ugly, stupid etc, if he would really love me I wouldnt feel useless etc. It's to the point where her depression is dragging me down with her, though I would never say that to her. She thinks I must be sleeping with someone else & she is not the object of my desire. please help! Or sit down and plan something new to try. Look man its getting to the point where youre gunna have to tell some form of authority, whether it be the police or something else either way, shes gunna bring you down if nothing changes and youll become just like her in a flash. But she wouldnt want to talk some nights. My Friend Is Draining Me! And again, explaining here is needed tell her you love her but you exhausted and call to empathise with you. I live with her in college and my exams have not been going well. The act of moving things out can be difficult to deal with. By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. I love her but I just think staying will be self destructive for me and just enabling to her. Do they really want help? Even she could not continue her studies and quit her studies.Its all because of she loves me to core and missing me much! yesterday she said dating isnt working for either of us, the things that we need to change are things that cant chnange. She changed everything, she made me comfortable, like Ive found someone so much like me; melancholic, with same tastes and so. If you haven't been feeling like yourself lately, your romance may be to blame. I cant stay wit her anymore. I cant leave her though because she said she wouldnt be able to live if i left her. She didnt want to go to my graduation. I would stand everything for her, but she doesnt seem to care, and it kills me from the inside. Giving a quick comeback or getting angry will reinforce his behavior. So are yours always casting concerned looks? If the answer is yes, talk with your partner ASAP. She lives 200 km away from me and Before this everything was amazing, great relationship, we admitted to each other that we were in love and had fallen head over heals, amazing sex, I really felt like I had found my best friend. I almost lost my identity and values. That takes incredible patience and compassion, but it can also take a toll on you. Setup File Name: Adobe_Premiere_Pro_v23.2..69.rar. Thank you for sharing. About me and my girlfriend! I experience the exact same thing you are talking about with my girlfriend for one year. I Feel Helpless! All I could do is be the best boyfriend a girl could have. You couldnt survive being a total mess a hundred years ago and We started dating and since after 2 months shes been depressed. I am essentially a caretaker now. If she did you would know. Im so hurt lately, and she doesnt give it a mind, and she doesnt barely talk to me on the late days. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Its bad and I feel so trapped. Me and my LDR girlfriend were originally together for 7 months, then took a break for 3, and now we are back together. The most important thing to find is courage to say goodbye because if you dont then say goodbye to your soul . She says she feels okay when she clearly doesnt, when I give her a hug during this time, she tenses up, keeps shaking her head, and really hates herself for the way she is. I can not just do sex all the time Im not a robot. A woman goes through a break up, she goes out, cries half the time and gets her drinks paid for all night and has her choice of a half a dozen guys fighting over her. If that person still doesnt change then it may be time to leave. Let she feels that you are proud of her. And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). But, my girlfriends depression and self loathing is disgusting. She might be craving for you to cross the distance. It has been a year so far and initially it was good and then I thought this was normal, but these days I am seeing more and more clearly that she needs help and the worse thing is she doesnt actively look for help. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. Am I giving up too quickly, am I weak, am I selfish I really dont know what I should do or feel right now. My Girlfriends Depression Is Bringing Me Down. I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. I'm seeing shapes behind the curtain. Well i have a very depressed girlfriend that i am dating at this moment which i do really love her which she is always unhappy when i go over her house. She shut me off completely and gave me halfhearted reply whenever I talk to her. She has issues with everyone including mine and her family. Thinking that you will solve the problem will only make you more and more frustrated. She was sweet, sensitive and caring. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. And one last thing, she really wants to be again successful, beautiful, smart, witty, and attractive for you more than anything else. Leave. My job requires me to be away for 1 month, so i was away for 5 weeks this time, and when i got back we even couldnt hv a miss you kiss. Trying to be a significant other when your partner has depression, anorexia, bulimia, addictions etc feels absolutely terrifying. She is also currently in therapy. But she keeps going back to him for friendship,what the eff am I for her now? We need ways to keep the flame and love alive. This is important: I have to tell you you will not find the cure, you can be there and support but please stop believing that it will make the problem go away. All rights reserved. This then gives my anxiety about getting erectile dysfunction. Your girl might decide differently. Life is can be cruel, tough and deceiving. Me being there, and supporting this whole time didnt count for anything. One day I thought that she wanted to seek attention by saying that so I confronted her. And he just feels like a failure and a burden onto everyone else to the point he has almost committed suicide twice. Good looking, good healthy cooking. Even she could not continue her studies and quit her studies.Its all because of she loves me to core and missing me much! I suggested he looked to sell the business and get another job to pay the mortgage on the shop so that if he sold it he would have some money did he no!! And dwelling in the state of permanent not-understanding-what-is-going-on is no option. She has been alcoholic for 10 years. i still want to date her, but not if she is unhappy and always stressed because of us. i fell as if i cant help her, im not good enough to make her happy although i try so hard and its making me doubt myself more and more. I tried to break up with her but,she couldnt let me ago, how cant she,shes been saying were drifting apart were nothing you dont care about me just stop it.and now shes depressed,or think she is, and Im the one getting all the thoughts all the sadness. I asked a lot of questions to learn what the problem is, all she says that everything collapses to her. I have been dealing with a depressed girlfriend for the last 3 months. Her issues didnt matter to me as she is a very good person, but I didnt see the whole picture. I still see him he wrote 2 suicide notes to me and his dad ( when I asked him to leave) and produced them for me to read. In her weekly column, JOAN LONG, a Bishopstown psychologist and psychotherapist, answers readers' queries. Dont worry youre not alone! If you need them. I dont know if that is the case with you too. I can know no one would have got solution. I deserve happiness, everyone does! I feel for all of you guys! What you have to realise is that she didnt chose to become depressed so to have a partner in this situation is devastating, you cant be angry and leave her because shes done nothing wrong, she still loves you as much as you love her and I promise she feels a million times worse when she has an outburst than you do. He is also seeing a psychiatrist who has advised he doesnt work I am doing 3 jobs to pay for my divorce as he is going to go bankrupt with his business =- because he couldnt face going in to work except at lunch time. But I really just wanted to Thank You for your post. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? He has on multiple occasions told me that he only feels happy, safe and secure around me, and that if it wasnt for me he wouldve killed himself long ago. Thats not me! And do not try to help, just try to understand. Some times its okay but those are only the times when things are easy. After everything I did, I have been there every single day, sharing my life with her, and pushing her away from this disease. See what I. Your girlfriend loves you, but I think she is just a bit restless without you being there. Dont worry too much about your girlfriend saying that you shouldnt talk to her anymore. Hi everyone, I feel really lost. 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